The reason people are those are that you meet and click with, who help you out or whom you help out and then you’re done. Could be the clerk at the store, or another parent at the PTO Meeting, or maybe it’s someone you don’t even meet in person but rather speak to on the phone or via e-mail. Whatever it is, this is the most common person who enters your life. Short relationship or long relationship, they’re in your life to either make a connection or an assist. Maybe it’s for a period of 10 years but you’re not really friends, you just see each other or speak about something specific – ‘the reason’ that you met and have a relationship at all.
Then there are the season people. They come to us and we have a longer term relationship with them. Perhaps they’re a friend, co-worker, boss or maybe even a family member. You have a deeper relationship with these people. They mean more to you and you to them. There is a stronger bond holding the two of you together. You’re like-minded and there is a balance between you. You don’t know what happens but all of a sudden for some reason, you’re no longer “friends”. For no apparent reason, no one had a fight, no one offended anyone, there is just a parting of the ways and the relationship is over. Sometimes it happens quietly and one day you realize, hey, they aren’t treating me the same, the relationship ran its’ course and it’s no longer what it was. In these instances it’s hard, sometimes, to let go. You may wonder what you did wrong. I’ve learned to not wonder. It’s just the way it is. I’ve also figured out that some people, just don’t know how to BE a friend and unfortunately, sometimes, we put more into it than they did anyway. As hard as it is, we just need to learn to let it go.
The lifetime people are the people you really love. Whether it is a friend, spouse, family member – these are the people who, when the chips are down, will be there for you no matter what because you mean the world to them, and they to you. It’s funny though. Sometimes those who you put in the lifetime category, end up in the season category. When times get tough and those that you are counting aren’t there for you, that kind of makes it hard to maintain that lifetime thing when you KNOW you’ve been there for them. The letting go of these types of relationships is the hardest. We were counting on these people and really believed with our entire heart and soul that we mattered to them as much as they matter to us. However, there are times, when that is not the case.
We all have reason, season and lifetime people in our lives. I’ve seen reason people turn into season people and then become lifetime people. I, also quite familiar with lifetime people becoming reason or season people. Keep in mind, DNA does not a family make and FAMILY does not necessarily mean LIFETIME people.
It’s hard to say good bye and it’s hard to let go. If we remember to be grateful for the time we’ve had, be aware of the gift they brought and the one you gave back, and by gift I don’t mean it’s always easy and nice. It can be the gift of learning a lesson in a very hard way. We must realize that where we are, RIGHT NOW is where we are meant to be, in every relationship.
If we remember that, it makes moving forward to the future and letting go of the present a whole lot easier.
Intending we are all able to let go more easily and move forward in love and gratitude.
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